Friday, March 28, 2008

7 Love Questions to Ask Your Partner

By Lucy Doyle One of the most fun ways to get to know your romantic partner is to ask love questions. In this way you can learn things about your partner which you might have not known otherwise.

Here are 7 Love Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. When did you fall in love with me - It's always nice to know the exact moment your partner fell in love with you. It can really get your heart racing like mad to hear your partner describe his or her feelings at the exact moment of falling in love.

2. What is the thing your partner loves the most about you - You may find out that a certain body part drives your partner wild and you would have never known about it. It can really get you to feel sexy to know this. This is a great love question to ask your partner.

3. Did your partner like you instantly - A lot of people have a first impression of their partner which wasn't so hot, and only later did they start to like them. It's really fun to know how far your partner's impression of you changed with the time you spent together.

4. If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation - It's nice to fantasize about going on a long romantic vacation together with your partner and to dream about a time when you both become rich, and who knows? Perhaps some day it will be true.

5. What is your major dream - This question is a great way to really know the love of your life. Knowing your partner's dreams is knowing them deeply.

6. Have you ever lied to me and if so, why? - Don't worry if you find out that your partner told you a small lie at the beginning of your relationship. Use this question to get a clean slate from now on.

7. Do you see us together in another year, 3 years, 5 or so? - Don't ask this question right at the beginning of the relationship to avoid stressing your partner out, but once you're steady, it's nice to know how your partner feels about a future with you.
These 7 love questions to ask your partner are best asked over a light conversation, perhaps with a bottle of wine between you to keep things light.

To learn more fun questions for couples, click here: 1000 Questions For Couples And More. Lucy Doyle is writer of relationship issues. To read her review of must-read relationship and romance books, click here: The Best Romance Books For Couples.
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The 5 Reasons Why People Stop Believing Their Soul Mates Are Out There

By John H Valentine Each and every time we break up our idea of a "soul mate" dies just a little. When we fall in love, we are convinced that we have found our one and only partner. However, when we break up, rather than admitting that we were mistaken about the identity of that person being our one and true love, it is easier to accept that such things are a myth. Also, if we are the person who was dumped, it is easier not to believe in them than to accept the fact that we were dumped by our possible soul mate!

The energy, time, and money we need to find a soul mate are enormous. Most of us do not have those resources to find them. Rather, we will tend to lower our standards and compromise on the best person we can find: "Mr/Mrs Right Now" rather than "Mr/Mrs Right". It will drive most of us crazy to realize the thought that we have committed our life to that one person who is not what they should be.

We know that we need to find and get that person but we feel it would be far too risky to sacrifice our savings or mortgage our house to buy a nationally run advert to find that one person. So, to reduce emotional distress and prevent possible financial risk, we abandon our beliefs about them being out there, and learn to live without that true love. Eventually, many of us will get tired of this "half-ass" or "practical" love and get divorced.
The presence of children can also "kill" the idea of us finding a true partner. Those of us with children will offer the excuse that we are "living for the children" and we will pour all of our attention and love into that bond rather than looking for the one person out there who can share the load.

If we don't have children or pets to look out for then our soul mate can become our job. Longer hours at the office, amongst our colleagues, seems to fill that hole in our lives. "Married to the Job" rather than "Married to the Mob"
So, break-ups, resources, risk, children and work are the five reasons for people stopping the belief that their soul mates are out there just waiting in the wings.

John H Valentine is an author of various articles on finding those one true partners we all know are out there. To follow the series please look out for further articles.
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Your Perfect Woman




No matter how young at heart you are, as you mature you will eventually long for a longer term relationship.

Long term relationships means that you now have accepted the responsibility to stay monogamous. There is no more fooling around with other women and being on the look out for another woman, especially if you are with her.

However, being monogamous does not mean that you have lost your freedom. Freedom is in the mind. But if you feel that you have lost your freedom, you need to question if it is your woman who is the insecure one and constantly needs the re-assurance and requirement that you to be there 24/7 OR indeed you are not ready for being one hearted.

Being in a monogamous relationship is very different and special to the usual, multiple relationships. Building a true one on one bond with the woman you love is special.
From speaking to many women, I have found that women do try to change their man. But you may need to see them trying to make changes for the better, such as making us pick after ourselves. We men however, I have been told need to accept their woman as they are. We too can change them, but eventually they will become the woman that we longer have passion for.

Ask yourself if the woman you love will let you continue to have your own identity, appreciating your family and friends that you have, and not bad mouthing them. If she doesn't, you may need to re-assess the situation and have a serious chat and think. Long term, there will be a problem if this persists.

Being a man, we all have grand dreams and plans. That's just our nature. Does your woman support your dream? Or does she want you to constantly go out with her friends or take cooking classes with her?

Finally, one of the most important things I have found to maintain the passion in the relationship over the long term is to make sure you continue as if you are still dating. Always remember what you did when you were dating. From opening the car door for them, to the love notes and romantic candle lit dinners.

That way, passion is always alive and you will no longer be looking around for another woman to spice up your life as there is no need...

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Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training.
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Saturday, March 15, 2008

10 Things You Can Do To Get A Man To Commit To You

By Steve Ubah

Here are the ten things that you must do if you want to ensure that your man gets more serious about committing his heart and soul to you:

1. Do not rush him into a serious relationship with you. The more you push, the more he will pull away.

2. No matter how much you may love spending time with your man, plan a little away from him every now and then. Having this separation can give him time to realize how important you are. Remember that old saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder".

3. Leave small reminders of yourself around his house. Do not go over board and leave so much of your stuff at his house that he start feeling like you are trying to force your way into his house without his permission.

4. If you have not heard from him all day, do not sit around waiting for him to call you. Go out and do something, this often helps guys realize that you do still have other things going on in your life.

5. Remain as aloof as possible about your future together. Men are so used to having women bombard them with questions about where their relationship is headed that they find it refreshing when you seem not to be too interested in settling down.

6. Remember to tell him every now and then how much he means to you, but make it special. Telling a man everyday that you care about him has a way of cheapening how you feel about him.

7. If you get the opportunity to meet his family, do not put yourself forward as the possible future in-law. Getting the family to like and respect you for who you are is an important step. If they think you are pushing your way into his life too soon they will become a barrier.

8. There is a delicate balance that you must learn to keep between maintaining your independence and being part of a relationship. Make sure that while you still go out and do your own thing, every now and then let him know that you also want to spend time with him.

9. Be respectful of his friends and his time with them. All boyfriends have that one friend you wish they did not hang out with, but pointing out his flaws over and over again is only going to drive a wedge between the two of you, and not him and his friend.

10. Let him do the chasing. Men value women they chase more than those that chase them.

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Five Secrets to Stop Fighting and Ignite Passion, Love and Romance

By Annie B Lawrence

It took me two divorces to learn to fight fair and not shut down and push love away. I now have a wonderful loving relationship and celebrated my seventeenth anniversary on Valentine's Day. Follow tools that took me over forty years to acquire-and recapture your passion, romance, and love.

What do you do when you feel hurt and your mate is pushing your buttons? I learned to shut down and go into my cave. John Gray's best seller Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus says that this is the man's role, but I found myself in my cave before I knew I had reacted. This is not a healthy way to deal with conflict and it won't get you the love you want. These three steps empower you to heat up your bedroom and recapture passion, and romance.

1. Make love a priority and give up your old habits. In order to stay in control of your habits and your emotions you must stay present, and be conscious of your learned behaviors and reactions.

2. Create a vision of what you want. Once you know what you want you are empowered to build a foundation to support it.

3. Spend fifteen minutes a day focusing on what you love about your mate. Remember the fun and the good times and develop a habit of releasing the things that bug you.

4. Make your own happiness and growth a priority. You cannot be happy with someone else until you learn to be happy yourself.

5. Stay current with your emotions. A pot that builds up heat will eventually explode. Let the steam off often and learn to vent your emotions in a gentle and loving way.

For more great tools to keep your relationship filled with passion an love click here http://www.retreatandheal.com/products.html

© copyright by Annie B Lawrence, Ph.D, CHT. Author of Love's Secret Live Your Life In Love, and co-author of 101 Ways to Improve Your Health. Love's Secret was awarded Finalist in Self Help Relationship by USA Book News and may be found on Amazon.com, Alibris, and http://www.retreatandheal.com/products.html

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Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Love Come and Go?

By Greg Rouse
Imagine this. You step up to the counter to place your order. After ogling the menu for several hours, playing the multiple options and combinations in your head you turn your attention to the person behind the counter.
You noticed that there were no prices next to the items on the menu but the place is packed and you are very ready to order. "I'm ready to order" you tell them. "Okay sir, what will it be?" They reply. That's when you do it up. I'll have the number three, take away the original sauce, add this instead, I want it medium to well with all the trimmings.
They punch all that into the register and look back at you with an honest grin. "One Heart Please!" That's right you pay up front. You pull it out, slap it up on the counter and they take it into their possession. "Right this way sir!" They lift the counter bar and bring you into the kitchen. You walk right in and are immediately caught off guard. Everyone who was in line before you was back there in the kitchen slaving over their own orders.
The clerk brings you to your station and tells you "Everything you need to prepare your order will come out here." And before you can prepare yourself here it comes; at a high rate of speed. Pieces are slapping you in the face, they're falling to the floor, they're landing in other customer's stations. So you roll up your sleeves and get to work. Hey, I paid for this! You bust your butt for several months trying to get everything in order. If you had known how much time went into putting it together you would have order something a lot simpler ... like a toss salad.
The days pass by like minutes and weeks like days. You find yourself nearing completion when all of a sudden your order just gets up and leaves your station. That's it, it just stands up and walks away. You struggle to stop it, but have no more energy left. It gets away. Just then you hear the clerk up front tell another customer. "One Heart Please!"
You're standing at your station still ready to "dig in" and you have no order. You look up at the sign hanging over the entry that reads "No Refunds!!" Tell me ... would you want to eat there again?
Maybe I'll get over it, but for now love has left a bitter taste in my mouth.
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Monday, March 10, 2008

Helpful Dating Advice for Shy Guys


The dating world can be a very intimidating place. It's even more so if you are a shy person. Trying to approach a woman you are interested in can become overwhelming if you find yourself feeling uncomfortable in social situations. With the right dating advice for shy guys you can learn how to strike up a conversation with an attractive woman and ensure that she finds you charming and intriguing.
One of the best pieces of dating advice for shy guys is to carefully choose where you go to meet women. Most men consider a crowded bar or nightclub the optimum choice. It's not. If you are unsure about how to get a woman's attention, going to a crowded nightspot will make it even more challenging. Most nightclubs will be packed with other single men all looking for the same thing you are. You'd do much better to go to a relaxed spot where you know you'll have something to talk to a woman about. Pick a grocery store, hardware store or library. Not only will your competition be much less but it's a lot easier to get her attention by asking about something as non-threatening as how delicious the fruit is at this time of year or what book she recommends.
Listening can sometimes be a lost art form, particularly in the singles scene. One of the most helpful pieces of dating advice for shy guys is to listen when you are interested in a woman. Once you approach here, ensure that you listen carefully to what she says. If you've been nervous in the past about what you'll talk to an attractive woman about, that issue can be solved by listening and picking up on what she is saying. If she talks about her work, ask her questions about it. Not only will it keep the conversation flowing smoothly but your interest in her will really impress her too.
There's no shame in bringing along some support when you are venturing out to meet women. Bring along a single friend and look to them for encouragement. It can be much easier to approach a woman if you are with someone else. She'll likely also see you as less threatening. Once the conversation starts, your friend can politely excuse himself leaving you to focus just on the woman. This is great dating advice for shy guys because it can give them a little extra boost in confidence knowing they've got someone supportive nearby.
Women understand that not all men are lady killers. They are actually incredibly grateful for that fact. Once you get to know a woman, don't be afraid to tell her that you are a little shy. It will give her some insight into how you're feeling and it will make you feel better knowing she understands.
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Thursday, March 6, 2008

How To Get Your Girlfriend Back


By Penny Willowbrae

People tend to think that because girls are supposedly "more sensitive" than guys, they will find relationship break up harder to deal with. The fact is, guys often find it harder because they feel that they have a tougher image to live up to. Guys tend not to open up to their friends as much as girls do and this is why guys usually end up feeling more isolated and unsure of what to do.
This feeling of uncertainty about what to do is heightened when the guy really wants to get back together with his ex girlfriend. He doesn't want, or can't, to talk to his mates about it and his girlfriend isn't there to talk to either.
What strategy should a guy pursue in this situation? The gut reaction is usually to call up the ex girlfriend, to try to see her, perhaps even bombard her with flowers, text messages. You name it. Panic sets in. Is this the best response? Believe it or not, it's often usually better to do nothing, certainly at first. You need time to think calmly for one thing. You also have to look after yourself and keep yourself ticking over while you work out what to do. It won't look good if you do get a chance to see her and your place is a mess and you are falling apart. She'll be more impressed if you seem to be strong and coping. Similarly, if you don't contact her for a while she'll wonder what's happening and may even start contacting you. This is classic behaviour which we see time and again.
This is a small taster of what to do and what not to do in the short term. For lots more advice and downloads about developing a strategy to win back your ex girlfriend, see get your ex girlfriend back.
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